Social Skills Self-Assessment

Please take a moment to think about your children and how they are perceived by others. This may be difficult since you know them so well and love them so much, but the few minutes invested is time well spent.

  • My child CONSISTENTLY performs this behaviorMy child USUALLY performs this behaviorMy child SOMETIMES performs this behaviorMy child SELDOM performs this behavior

    1. LISTENING: When listening, my child sets aside distractions (e.g., phone, screens, books) and gives the speaker their undivided attention, including eye contact.

    2. FIRST IMPRESSIONS: My child presents a strong, welcoming visual first impression by using a genuine-looking smile that puts others at ease and invites conversation.

    3. BODY IMAGE: My child holds a confident posture and maintains a strong frame without slouching even when sitting at the table or on the computer.

    4. SOCIAL CUES/AWARENESS: My child can accurately pick up on nonverbal messages from others (e.g., yawning, eye-rolling, turning away, etc.) and then react appropriately to those perceived messages (e.g., curtails the conversation, politely asks for focused attention, changes the subject, etc.).

    5. SOCIAL CONFIDENCE: When meeting others, my child uses good eye contact and a simple greeting, and then can advance conversation.

    6. VOLUME & ARTICULATION: When speaking, my child regulates his/her speaking volume and projection well in addition to pronouncing words clearly and correctly.

    7. VOCAL EXPRESSION: My child speaks dynamically and expressively without the use of filler words (e.g., “like,” “y’know,” etc.).

    8. SOCIAL AWARENESS: My child can discern when it is appropriate to speak and when it is best to hold his/her tongue.

    9. CONVERSATION: My child can start a conversation with virtually anyone by using icebreakers and then continue an interesting dialogue for extended periods without awkward pauses or uncomfortable silence.

    10. LEADERSHIP: On a team or in a small group, my child can find a role and be a productive contributor.

    11. ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION – SELF-PROMOTION: My child can present their opinions assertively without becoming defensive or argumentative.

    12. INFLUENCE: My child’s communication persuades and influences positively so that his/her messages are respected and remembered by others.

    13. PUBLIC SPEAKING: My child is comfortable and capable of giving a public speech or presentation.

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